10 points for best one!Did you ever had a crush that lasted for years?How to get over it?
werther Asked: 10 points for best one!Did you ever had a crush that lasted for years?How to get over it?
I am 22 so is she.I fell in love with her when we were 11 years old,being in the same class.During those years my life was bad,I was becoming fat,had bad teeth,was clumsy so I was not very popular.I was bullied verbally all the time(you know how mean kids could be)and physically during the 6th and 7th grade(until my dad found out,I did not tell him or the teachers cause I did not want to be a wimp).I liked her but was afraid that she would reject me because I was fat,ugly,was a nerd,bookworm while she was popular,smart,had all A grades,played the piano.I was the same in high school,minus the bullies,met some great friends,grew to 6ft7,was very fat.She was still popular,dated older guys(nothing serious),prom queen.SHe moved for college 400 miles away.I thought that that is it,she will move away,found a great guy from big city.Now I just see her on Facebook.But I could never stop feeling the way I always felt when I saw her.Last year I wanted a change in my life so I decided to work out,eat healthy.I lost most of the weight,looked good,and for the first time in my life I did not feel like I could not do anything,then I saw her during Christmas holidays.I decided that when I lose those last pounds(my looks are a great problem for my self confidence).But imagine my luck: She found a boyfriend,a guy that lives a 3 miles away from me,a guy that was already in a relationship (he was with this other girl for 2.5 years when he met my crush),a guy that looks the way I wanted to look(nothing much,just is tall,although shorter than I am,is dark,I am pale,and is lean),is studying the same thing as I do,so does she(economics)but is more successfull,has a weekend job as a bartender(his best friend runs it,it is a small bar,not much business,they have 4 bartenders,it looks like they pay him just to hang out with them),and 2 of his friends are in a long term relationships with 2 of her close friends.They are together now for 15 months,it is a long distance relationship,he almost never goes to see her,he is too busy here,she comes back every 5 weeks or so.She seems to be in love,is 400 miles away from me,I never even spoke to her longer than 5 minutes,so my chances are none.But I can not get her out of my mind,am afraid of the future,what if I started to work in the same place she will,I lose the will to breathe when I see them together.I do not want to be a sad,pathetic loser anymore.I want to get her out of my system.Sorry for the length but this is a big problem for me,and I would really appreciate some good advice.Btw I definetly do not think that just leting her go will help me,I need to know her,to see why is she making me feel this way
No. Because buddy, that's an obsession and it's not healthy.
i had a crush for a few years on a girli spotted in my gym, never said anything to her for years, then on day i gother blackberry pin adeed her and started talking, i manged to blurt out i thought she was beautiful on the first day of texting, we carried on talking for months, then met up out of the gym and that was it, she fell for me i fell for er and now we have been togher happy for the past 9 moths
Some time your wishes may never be fulfilled.
You must accept that as part of life.
Don't try to rid yourself of those thoughts – they just don't go away…
so, just live with it…
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