Ashley Asked: healthy weight and motivation?

I just turned 18, I am 5'9, and I weigh 130 lbs.
I feel super fat and it bums me out a lot, and no matter how hard I try, I cant lose weight and keep it off, and I have trouble with sticking to exercise and diet plans. What's the ideal weight for someone my height? And what do you do to motivate yourself to stick to your plans? Muchlove and many thanks xo

Ashley Asked: Is my cremation idea a bad thing to do?

I'm 26 and shouldn't be talking about this. But I want to ensure what happens to my body when I die. I lost my mother when I was 17 and we had her cremated and I still have her urn of course. I love my mother. We had a true bond between parent and child. I was thinking that when I die, I want to be cremated and have my ashes mixed with her's. So in a sense it's like I will be with her physically and spiritually. I just want to know if this is healthy or if other families have done this. Then possibly if I have kids, they in the future can hold on to their mother and grandmother. I just don't want us to be dumped in the ocean or in the ground.

Ashley Asked: Whats wrong with me? No one is taking me seriously but i’m in so much pain help me!!?

So i always used to be hungry! Like always. Even after i ate sometimes haha. I am skinny and have a very high metabilism and so it never really effected me. Lately i've lost my appetite. I just am not hungry at all! And i constantly feel full when i've eaten nothing. I think something is serious wrong with me cause i've having other symptons as well. I barfed the other night (and i never barf) last time i barfed was 4-5 years ago. I have been feeling bad for a week. Started with my throat had all the symptons of tonsilits (which is basically a sour throat says my parents) so they wouldn't take me to the doctor. They took me to get tested for strep though and i don't have it. I'm 16 by the way. My throat has stopped hurting but my right tonsil is still a bit inflamed. It's gone done alot but…. My stomach has been hurting alot as well and i'm having dirreah. What the hell is going on with me? Also this could have nothing to do with anything but i've had a weird rash on my back for like a week…. Bumps and stuff. I went to the dermatoligist and they gave me cream but i kind of have been forgetting to put it on…. Please help me!

Alright so i posted that this morning or last night but its like getting worse! I have dirreah all day and my stomach is killing me!! It hurts to walk even and i feel bloated and want to cry. My parents don't believe anything is actually wrong they're like "your getting better you just need to eat healthy sleep ect…" and the thing is i feel like something is really wrong and im scared! No body is taking me seriously though cause i;m a bit of a hypocandria (always think i have diseases). But this is for real. Something is wrong

Ashley Asked: Stomach is killing me and other symptons. Parents don’t think anything is wrong so won’t take me to

So i always used to be hungry! Like always. Even after i ate sometimes haha. I am skinny and have a very high metabilism and so it never really effected me. Lately i've lost my appetite. I just am not hungry at all! And i constantly feel full when i've eaten nothing. I think something is serious wrong with me cause i've having other symptons as well. I barfed the other night (and i never barf) last time i barfed was 4-5 years ago. I have been feeling bad for a week. Started with my throat had all the symptons of tonsilits (which is basically a sour throat says my parents) so they wouldn't take me to the doctor. They took me to get tested for strep though and i don't have it. I'm 16 by the way. My throat has stopped hurting but my right tonsil is still a bit inflamed. It's gone done alot but…. My stomach has been hurting alot as well and i'm having dirreah. What the hell is going on with me? Also this could have nothing to do with anything but i've had a weird rash on my back for like a week…. Bumps and stuff. I went to the dermatoligist and they gave me cream but i kind of have been forgetting to put it on…. Please help me!

Alright so i posted that this morningor last night but its like getting worse! I have dirreah all day and my stomach is killing me!! It hurts to walk even and i feel bloated and want to cry. My parents don't believe anything is actually wrong they're like "your getting better you just need to eat healthy sleep ect…" and the thing is i feel like something is really wrong and im scared! No body is taking me seriously though cause i;m a bit of a hypocandria (always think i have diseases). But this is for real. Something is wrong

Ashley Asked: How can I get more curves?

I a 17 year old female, am almost 5"8 and only weigh about 109 lbs. I don't look very healthy (or proportional!). I have been trying for years to gain weight by eating A LOT. Many people have told me to work out, but I'm afraid that will make me chest and/or butt get smaller. I know many girls that do sports and complain about how their chests got a lot smaller from all the exercise. I've heard that there are body building and weight gaining powders for sale, but I'm not familiar with any and I don't even know if those would help me. Any suggestions would be great, thanks!

Ashley Asked: Why would someone want a baby to die?

Before I was born, my uncle's redneck wife said that I was going to hell because I was being born to teenage parents who weren't married. She also said she hoped my mom would lose the baby (me), and I had complications when I was born but grew up to be healthy. Im 17 and have a good life and all, but it still hurts my feelings that someone who wish death on me just because my parents weren't married when I was born. Why would someone say that and should I be angry and hate her or let it?

Ashley Asked: How should I color my hair? Lighter or darker?

My hair is nautrally a medium to dark brown but recently Ive been bleaching it to make it lighter. This is it now, I'm the one with lighter hair lol. http://i48.tinypic.com/2rysk6q.jpg
Im getting bored of this color and I'm thinking of dying it a light golden brown. But also I think i want to go lighter for summer.And im trying to grow my hair out long and healthy so thats why im considering going light brown so it'll be closer to my natural color so i wont have to color my roots as much. Sooo what do you think?

Ashley Asked: Boyfriend not talking to me? I might have a crush on another guy?

I am 20 and my boyfriend is 23. We've been together for a good two years, now. We've had a great, healthy relationship. We don't fight much, we usually see each other often, but there's something that has been bothering me lately. It started when finals week was around the corner. He told me that he needed time to study and focus on his schoolwork, so I gave him space. I found out a couple days after that instead of doing what he told me he was doing, he would go over to his friend's house and play video games. For hours. He didn't bother to call or text me at all. So for a week, we didn't talk. That weekend, after testing, he didn't talk to me or hang out with me at all. He said that he and his friends were planning on hanging out the entire weekend because finals were over. So he had spare time to spend with his friends. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind when he hangs out with his friends, but it's the fact that he lied to me about studying and didn't bother to hang out or get in contact with me. He hasn't hung out with me for three weeks. It's really concerning me and I feel lonely most of the time, and I am becoming depressed. I don't know what his problem is. We've been great for the longest time, but recently it's been a nightmare. What am I to do? When I DO try to call or text him, he says I am being too clingy.

He is a great guy. He treats me like a queen, gives me gifts, takes me out, spends time with me, cares for me. Just not lately since we haven't talked or seen each other. He lives ten minutes away(driving), which is another reason why I'm upset. I also don't have a car to go see him, so he would usually drive to see me. We also don't go to the same college, so I am still in school for another two weeks.

I'm also not sure if it is because of the loneliness that I'm left with, but I've developed a sort of small crush on one of my classmates. He and I usually work together and talk in class, and help each other with classwork. I see him every morning, and it scares me, but I find myself sort of fantasizing about it and excitedly awaiting seeing him the next morning. I can't help myself. It's probably just stupid, though. I hope it goes away soon. I feel so guilty about it because I already have a boyfriend who I love very much, but he hasn't bothered to see me in three weeks. Should I just forget about the crush? I don't know what to do about my boyfriend's behavior, either.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you so much.

Ashley Asked: whats the chances of miscarrying again?

Ill start with I am 21 and healthy. I had a blighted ovum almost 2 months ago(January 26, 2012) I was 9 weeks pregnant when I found out I had a blighted ovum I was 10 weeks along when I had my d&c I really didnt have any pregnancy symptoms except a little nausea and irritability 3-4 weeks later I started my period so around Feb 18 after my period ended I took a pregnancy test to make sure I didnt still have hcg in my system all test came back negative march 19 I took 3 home pregnancy test all came back positive so I called my doctor and requested to have my hcg levels drew my level is 147 I feel the exact same as I did the first time I would be about 4 weeks pregnant but I just cant believe it whats the chances of me having another blighted ovum or miscarriage Im very nervous to wait for my first ultrasound and find no baby or heartbeat

Ashley Asked: Guys should my breast be smaller then what they are?

well im 21 38 triple D i weight 145 and im 5'1 my
husband told me it isnt healthy but everytime i look up
he's using them as a pillow so should i get them taken
down some sizes