Asked: I have a question for marijuana smokers?

Dear Potheads,

I want to get something off my chest really quick. I've been gone because I tried to take a break from Yahoo! for a while to get my head straight and to calm down. As you may already know, yesterday was "420". I hope all you druggies had fun RUINING your lives. And apparently some of you think that I need to "start smoking marijuana and lighten up", well let me tell you something right now. I DON'T NEED TO LIGHTEN UP! This isn't funny. This is not funny AT ALL. I don't want any of your pot, I don't put poison into my body. I will never smoke marijuana. Marijuana is one of the leading causes of death in America, in fact, it could be one of the leading causes of death in the world, and if anyone argues with that fact, they are a pathetic sick pot-smoker. And let me tell you something right now. I had a friend jump off a house because he was high on marijuana. YOU DON'T MESS AROUND WITH STUFF THAT DOES THAT TO YOU! That is worse than meth, heroin, and a lot of other things. Like, at least none of those things make you jump off buildings. I would never do any drugs, but that is terrible! Anyone that actually tries to legalize marijuana, anyone that says, "oh, we gotta legalize this, legalize pot aherherer" are probably mad because they're sick drug-addicts and they need to go to a rehab facility ASAP. If ANYONE in your family is on pot, PLEASE try to have an intervention with them, and get them to go to rehab. I convinced my friend to go to rehab for two months, and he's fine now. Because of ME! So you know what, I'm just sick of everyone telling me, people are always coming up to me at school saying, "You need to smoke marijuana, you need to chill out bro, bro you need to chill out man, you need to chill and smoke some weed". SHUT UP! YOU'RE CLIMBING UP THE WRONG BEANSTALK! I don't need to do that stuff, I am perfectly chill, alright? And I'm not going to let any drug change me, because the instant my friend smoked pot, he was NEVER the same again! AND IT'S ALL OF YOUR FAULT TOO! It's the media, they convinced everyone that pot is "okay" to smoke, WELL IT'S NOT! Just like masturbation, it's not healthy. Anyway, I got to go, I'm probably going to be posting questions more often, because I'm done taking breaks from Yahoo!, you know, because my therapist told me I needed to take a break or something. (Yes, I got a new therapist, not like any of you care). Anyways I'm back, I'll probably be posting statuses weekly. Also, I'm in the process of making a rap video, tell me if you're interested in being apart of it. It will be filmed on top of a MOUTAIN! I'm trying to get someone to help me direct it and all that, the lyrics are ready, so yall better be ready! Alright, so yeah, you guys can stop telling me to smoke pot, I'm perfectly normal, marijuana is a drug that changes you and it's not good, it's not natural okay? And anyone that argues with me is a stupid drug abuser and they don't understand what they're talking about.

Asked: I am tapering off of alcohol…Will someone PLEASE answer a few questions? Please?

Hello,
I have been drinking probably close to a case of beer a day for about 9 months now. I've just finally had enough. I wont get into the details because most alcoholics/addicts understand how horrible this makes you feel. What I have been doing is tapering off of the alcohol. I started reducing by 3 per day. When I got to around 9 per day, I started having horrible withdrawal symptoms. So I increased my intake back to 12 per day, which helped, but not that much. Then I went back to 9, then 6 (for two days), then now I am at 4. This process has been going on for about 2 weeks now. Anyway, I am at 4 today. I am also drinking a lot of water and eating pretty much all healthy foods, high in vitamins. I am proud of myself in a sense because I have been fighting the withdrawal, but the symptoms are now so intense, I can't even bare it. I tried to get into a detox unit, but I have to be "suicidal" to get into the dual diagnosis unit. OR I can get into a regular detox/rehab, but I have to pay a copay of close to 1500.00 to even get admitted because of my insurance.

Here are the symptoms I am having. Intense pressure in my head, heart palpitations, minor hallucinations (like seeing things move or seeing things at the corner of my eye constantly), intense sweating, barely able to complete a sentence or think of a word to come up with mid sentence, can't sleep, intense anxiety (afraid to even go outside), brain shocks that literally go through my entire body and make me shake horribly for at least 3 seconds, cold sweats, hot flashes, tingling in my head occasionally and worst of all is the feeling everything is a "dream like" (nothing seems real and when I look at my arms for example, they don't "feel" or "seem" attached to me) and more. So my questions are:

Am I tapering too quickly?

How severe are these withdrawals for an alcohol detoxification and taper? Should I go to the ER due to these symptoms or tough it out and continue to taper on my own (with the help of a friend of course)?

Is Librium a safer substitute for alcohol withdrawal? If so, will the ER prescribe me enough to get through this safely? (I don't have a family doctor right now because I just moved to this area.)

What else should I be doing to get through this safely and without the intense withdrawals? I know I will experience withdrawals, but I can't even begin to explain how horrible this is.

Thank you for reading and hopefully understanding what I am going through. Please help and answer the questions. I really need help understanding what to do. Thank You.

Asked: PLEASE help, crush of four years! I need advice?

(Sorry this is so long but please read it!) Okay, freshmen year of high school I was totally crushing hard on this guy (he was a senior). It lasted three years (he took time off before college) and I saw him all the time and we had the same group of friends and stuff. We didn't really talk because I was too shy but we would chat sometimes and he always complimented me on my art and my taste in music and stuff. Everyone always teased me about it and I'm pretty sure he knew I liked him but we never really went beyond acquaintences partially because he thought of me as young.
I haven't seen him in a year, and in about a month theres this big local concert and his band is getting back together to play. I am definitely going to see him, and I've changed a lot since the last time he saw me. I lost 25 pounds (still losing a little bit) and my skin cleared up. I went up a bra size (not to sound skanky or anything, just noting I've grown up a lot) grew my hair out, learned to do makeup, and started dressing a lot nicer. I am 18 now and he's 21.
I want to know from a guys perspective, do they notice these things? How can I sort of flirt with him? If you were in this situation would your opinion change? Like if a girl went from overweight to healthy weight and totally changed her appearance? Would age still be an issue now that I'm older, even though we're still a few years apart? What should I do! Should I look like I'm having a good time and not really notice him until he approaches me? Or should I get him to catch me looking at him?
Any advice AT ALL is appreciated!

Asked: HELP! IM DESPERATE!! How do I lose 60 in 2 1/2 months?? I’m tired of being fat, please help me! :’(?

I'm a 16 year old female and I'm 5'1… I weigh 189.2 pounds. I know 60 pounds in 2 1/2 months is a lot but I don't care. I don't want to do it the "healthy" way. I'm going on a trip in June to Utah to see friends I haven't seen in almost 2 years. We'll be hiking and swimming and camping and I want to be able to keep up. I am sooo tired of being fat! It's so miserable being fat. I'm depressed because of it, and I cry every night. I seriously can't stand it. I tried a diet the other day and I only lasted three days. I'm weak and I'm ashamed of it. I seriously think my body is actually addicted to junk food. I don't eat fast food that much, maybe once a month. I hardly drink any soda but I over eat. PLEASE help! I need to lose this weight, it's made me have bad grades in school since I don't want to go out and actually log on my hours (I go to an online school, and do it at the library)…. I don't care if its unhealthy, I just don't care anymore. I just want this over with, please help me. I'm seriously desperate! Thank you

(P.s. I can't afford to go to the gym, my family is broke. I can buy workout DVD's though)

Asked: PLEASE help, I gained 10 pounds in less than 2 months?!??!?

Hi, so I've gained just about 10 pounds after being at a special school for one and a half months where they serve healthy, but really good, food. I've been overeating on desserts and whatnot and now I came home and I see that I've gone from 119 pounds to 129. I'm 17 years old and 5'4" for reference.

Please, can someone give me advice for how I can get rid of this weight fastest? I need help, and I'm so unhappy right now. This is the most I've ever weighed in my life.

Asked: Joints Constantly CRACKING?

my joints has started cracking since 3 years ago. I'm currently 15, has a healthy diet, fairly active, normal BMI, with a height of 5ft 3 inches.

I went to my doctor, but he said that it's perfectly normal, and it's apart of the 'growing up process' but I know it's more than that, because ALL my joints crack. My knees, my neck, my back, my hips, my ankles, my toes, my fingers, my wrists, my shoulders,my jaws, my elbows, just all of them.
They're occasionally very painful, but for most of the time they're just loud and annoying. I slowly realised that the joints that cracks often are usually quite loose. This is a problem because my jaw cracks, and it feels like it's weakened and it sometimes meant that I can't chew properly.
Nevertheless, sometimes, the joints like my felt like they're dislocated when I'm moving (e.g. when I'm running, I have to stop and bend in agony because my ankle suddenly becomes very painful, but it's better after a few seconds).I'm currently suspecting that I have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome because my joints (especially my elbows and knees) bends back more than others do, but no one in my family has the same thing.

So, can anyone PLEASE tell me what's going on, and tell me what to do?

Asked: I really really need girlfriend help Please guys and girls ?? ?

"I am not like other guys" is what i've been told from my girlfriend , she loves my Goodmorning/Goodnight texts, i dont ever flirt with girls, i always kiss her instead of making out, blah blah blah she always tells me that i do all of this and she loves it. But now she's being a real b**ch to me and takes me for granted, i do EVERYTHING for her i dedicate my whole life to her and she's the likw Mighty powerful one in the relationship now, she's in the drivers seat, i cantput my hands near her butt, i cant cuddle with her, if i miss ONE goodmorning message in a month she freaks out,but i love her, what should i do to turn itaround? Just so that it's a healthy relationship and NOT like this PLEASE help ?

Asked: Things are sh*tty with my gf…I need some help please?

I'll apologize in advance for the long details, but I felt they were necessary.

We met last August online and have been "dating" since online long distance. Things were good until we started fighting a lot and broke up in December. We stayed friends and got back together when I visited her in January and we plan on seeing each other again in summer.

Last Friday (02/22) we had a huge fight. I realized I was being an overly attached controlling b*tch and I apologized but she ignored me for a day and then we talked. She asked what I wanted out of this relationship so I said I wanted to be with her and she said she wants a healthy relationship. I told her to give me another chance and she said "something's not okay" and she feels like she's lying to herself. I asked if she loves me and she said she does but feels like something's missing.

We decided to talk on weekends because she wants space and I needed to break my bad habits of being obsessed. I messaged her on Tuesday and Wednesday though. Tuesday was casual but on Wednesday I asked if she was still mad at me and she said "What do you think?" I asked if she wants this relationship and she said "I want a healthy relationship." So I asked if she was willing to be with me if I fixed things and to be honest otherwise we'd be living a lie and she said "You annoy me…yes." Something still didn't feel right so I asked if she wanted to break up and she said "Lulz when?" "Maybe after we fought and even now?" "No. I just want space and I'm sick of having you always talking about this." I said I felt our relationship's in danger and she said "Uh hum. Maybe it is." I said let's talk on Sunday and she was like "You'll message me anyways…if I don't reply you'll send more messages saying I'm ignoring you, and if I answer you you'll annoy me with your bullcrap." I asked when she wants to talk and she said "When I feel like it."

On Saturday I messaged her. Things were casual. I mentioned my visit in the summer and she didn't say anything. I asked her if she still wants me to come and no reply. I asked her again and here's the convo: "Why do you keep asking? I've answered that question so many times!" "I'm asking because things aren't how they used to be. Why can't you answer?" "Because I don't f*cking want to! Stop asking the same **** over and over! Ugh" After that I said let's talk this out and what's wrong with us and she said she needs to go.

After a few hours I messaged her saying we really should talk this out but she kept ignoring me. I just suggested a break and that we might be getting sick of each other, which she also ignored. I don't think I should tell the exact details of the messages but they came off as really obsessive and clingy…"Do you not love me anymore?" "Are you still upset?"…The next morning I said sorry for pushing **** so much and asking so many question and to have a good day, which she also ignored.

I think she may just be really pissed and frustrated that I'm being so insecure and pushy…I really screwed up big time…

What should I do? Do I just cease contact and give her space? Is there still hope? Next Sunday's her birthday, do I say happy birthday or not?…I know my obsessiveness is driving her away and I want to fix things…Sorry for sounding so paranoid.

Btw, I know that breaking up's an option but I want to try…Please try and understand that I still want to be with her and want to try.

Thank you. All answers are appreciated.

Asked: Please help me with a realistic diet plan? I need to lose weight.?

Okay so I'm 5'2 and weigh around 136 pounds. I'm barely at a healthy weight right now, but if I gained any more weight, I would be overweight. I've wanted to lose weight for a very long time and I'm finally getting serious about it. Around 110-115 pounds would be my goal.

I'm in college, LOVE food, and don't love exercise…so eating veggies and working out for an hour every day just doesn't work for me. I've tried and tried and just can't do it. I've started running on the treadmill (though, compared to my friends, I run slow. The fastest I've done is 6.2 mph and I'm most comfortable going 5.8!!) and usually do around 3 or 3.5 miles. I usually eat either a banana or oatmeal with blueberries for breakfast. But by lunch and especially by dinner, I give in and eat badly. I do like vegetables, but when compared to pasta, pizza, or the endless options of other yummy foods, I hardly ever make the right choice. And I LOVE LOVE LOVE desserts. So that's definitely detrimental to my goals.

So anyway, I was hoping that someone could give me a realistic plan/routine that I could follow for the next few months. I just can't go cold turkey on the sweets or good food because then I end up binging on it and ruining any progress I made anyway. And what should my exercise routine look like?? I'm not that into exercise (I've never had an endorphin rush It does make me feel healthier and less chubby after I workout though!! but I can't honestly say I enjoy it…I hate every second of exercising to be honest. And I'm talking about cardio, since I don't really mind weights/crunches/etc) and I love food so much, but I do want to lose these 20-30 pounds. For good. I'm sick of being fat and would love to be able to wear my pretty clothes instead of hiding in baggy tshirts all the time.

If you have any advice or could give me a manageable routine to follow, that would be great I do have *some* self discipline (not a lot though haha) but I can only go without sweets/good food for so long and definitely would love it if I didn't have to work out every day. But I want to lose this weight, so please tell me what will work. PLEASE.

Thank you!! Sorry I rambled so much

Asked: How do I ask a guy to hookup during school?

How to ask a guy to go hook up?
I'm a junior girl in high school and I'm looking to hookup with a specific boy. He's a senior and I find him attractive and I think he's into me. We've talked a few times but I don't have a class with him anymore so I don't get many opportunities to talk to him anymore. I'd like to hookup with him during lunch or something in his car or whatever. I'm only looking for this to be casual and I think it's best to be straight forward. However, I don't think I can just walk up to him and say "Hey, wanna go hookup?." I know that he probably wouldn't say no to that, but It's just kind of a weird way to do it. BTW, by hookup I mean everything but sex. PLEASE do not tell me to keep my clothes on and to respect myself or any of that crap. I completely respect myself, and you shouldn't shame somebody for having a healthy sexual appetite. I am smart and thusly will make smart choices. So how do I approach him and proposition him to go get naked in the back of his car in the best way possible?